When people seek me out for
coaching they often have a specific goal in mind. They need to find a new job,
they want to find a new job, they want to figure out how to improve their
performance in their current job, or they want to change careers. One of the first questions I ask new clients
is, what are your dreams. What would you like to accomplish? Where would you like to take your life? If you could have a different career, what
would you be doing?
Sometimes people have answers
that they're happy to share, and sometimes they have answers, but they’re hesitant to
share. After all, telling someone your
dreams puts it out there. All of a
sudden you’re vulnerable and the clock starts ticking. But it’s also very freeing. When you dare to admit out loud to someone that
you have a dream, it comes to the forefront of your thinking. The genie is out of the bottle.
Unfortunately I often talk to
people who don’t have a dream or can’t think of one. Their visionary muscles are weak or they feel beaten down by the constant noise of their everyday lives. Sometimes when people are unhappy, they craft
dreams. Other people become
blocked. Visionary thinking is like a
muscle, use it or lose it.
Our problem solving muscles
get a lot of use in our every day. We’re
solving problems at work, with our family, figuring out how to avoid traffic. It’s part of our job and our culture, so we
get very comfortable in this mode. But
problem solving means there’s a problem to solve. There’s an external catalyst for our
creativity, a question to be answered, a situation to fix.
With visionary thinking and
dreaming, there’s often no external catalyst.
It’s more of a vague notion of a desire to go in a direction, or a
curiosity – an internal catalyst. It’s
like having a blank sheet of paper or blank canvas with no assignment on what
to create.
Imagine you’re facing a blank
sheet of paper. Can you set your
imagination free or do you have writers’ block?
If you answered ‘writers block,’ you need to do some visionary strength
training.
Start with something fun. Here’s a great exercise from the February
issue of O Magazine. Finish these
sentences:
I'm most creative...
If I were a color, I'd be... (and why)
I often imagine myself...
I really wish I knew how to...
I'd love to spend a lazy Sunday...
My secret talent is...
Tell your life story in 6 words. (See how
many versions you can come up with!)
Here
is the first one that came to my mind – the story of my life in so many ways:
Fall down, get up, start over.
Another
great way to tap into your dreamer is to meditate. There are so many ways to meditate beyond staring at your navel. Do anything that quiets your mind. Walk in nature, garden, play the piano,
practice yoga, ride your bike somewhere away from traffic. Allow your mind to quiet down. It may take a bit of practice, but your
intuition and dreamer will begin to emerge.
Resist
the urge to shut down any ideas or dreams that may arise with questions like, how
will I ever do that, or that’s impossible.
Just see what comes up. And
practice, practice, practice. You’ll
find that your problem solving skills will also improve, but more importantly
there may be a wonderful dream just waiting to be uncovered.
I’m
a certified Dream Coach™ through Marcia Wieder’s
Dream University. I’m running a special
on her transformational 10 step Making Your Dreams Come True® process. To learn more,
contact me.