When our inner Risk Manager is on the job, we think through various ‘what if’ scenarios. What if xyz can’t deliver their project on time? What if I get laid off? What if my new job doesn’t work out? What if he/she finds someone else? What if, what if, what if.
Why is our inner Risk Manager is always looking at the downside? Part of the value of that role, I suppose, is to prepare us for the worst-case scenario. As with many businesses, though, we listen to Risk Management but we seldom take action on what it says. We just add one more thing to our ‘worry about’ list.
But putting it on our ‘worry about’ list doesn’t qualify as action. It’s just a cycle of non-productive circular thinking. We seldom lay out a plan or decide what to do to prevent or lessen the impact of what we’re worrying about. We just fret and stew.
A few years ago after my Dad died my Mom started really worrying about me. If I didn’t call her for a few days she’d leave me voicemails telling me she was worried about me. When cell phones were new I was talking to her standing in line at the cash register at Nordstrom. Our connection got dropped, so I tried calling her back. Her line was busy for the next 15 minutes. When I finally got hold of her she was in hysterics thinking that someone had mugged me. She had been frantically calling my brothers and her friends trying to find someone who would advise her what to do. Luckily no one was home. Over time I began to see two underlying reasons for her worry: she was expressing love in a motherly way (even though I was 45 at the time), and she was afraid of being alone.
I recently heard someone say that to worry was to pray for something bad to happen. Putting that energy out into the universe just gives it strength. Think about that next time you indulge in a worry fest. What are you giving strength to? What do you worry about, and what might be the underlying issues or causes of that worry? If you’re playing out horrible ‘what if’ scenarios in your mind, what action can you take to prepare, prevent, or lessen the impact of those various scenarios?
Better yet, how about playing a positive ‘what if’ game? What if you lose the weight? What if you get your dream job? What if your idea turns out to be a money-maker? Don’t indulge in fantasies like, what if I win the lottery. Think about things that you can take action to manifest. (By action I mean more than just buying a lottery ticket.)
If negative ‘what iffing’ puts bad energy out into the universe, positive ‘what iffing’ puts positive energy out into the universe.
Using this technique is a great way to get in touch with how it will feel after you take action to make your dream come true. Close your eyes and allow yourself to indulge in the vision. What will it look like, what will you feel like? Use this awareness to motivate you to take action and stay on course as your work to make your dreams come true.
Marcia Wieder, America’s Dream Coach®, says “Intention is one of the most powerful forces in life. Without it we can sometimes stray without meaning or direction in our lives. But with it, all the forces of the universe can align to make even the most impossible, possible.”
What if you took action to make your dreams come true? What if you dared to imagine your dream life? Even if you feel like you’re standing at the bottom of a deep, dark well with no way to get out (been there…), go ahead and indulge in positive ‘what ifs.’ It only takes small steps to begin and will yield better results than your worry fest.
Earlier this year I was trained and certified by Marcia to coach her proven ten step process, Making Your Dreams Come True®. If you’d like to learn more, contact me for a free introductory session.